When you look non-judgmentally at the parts of you that criticise and attack you from within it’s like tapping into what heals. Often those critical parts are trying to protect you from unwanted feelings or are fearful about uncertainty. They create bad feelings that feel absolutely true. But they’re not.
When you engage that core compassion and can see how scared those critical parts of you are, those bad feelings can fade away. The first step is to notice the inner attack and what it feels like. Then you could say, “and that’s okay.” This is something you might need to practise often before it becomes automatic, but it is possible to become kinder to yourself. My client, M, shares their experience:
Helping me to be less critical of myself and compassionate has meant that I can emerge and be more confident in who I actually am. I can explore thought processes and behaviours with less and less judgement and self inflicted damage to myself. It’s revealed and meant I can become more comfortable with aspects of myself that I have always denied myself of being because I should be like “everybody else.” I’m actually a queer non-binary being who had a pretty rough beginning.M
You can read M’s full testimonial here. M sent me this testimonial unasked for, and said it gave them an opportunity to take stock and see how far they’ve come. Taking stock is beneficial in many ways. It can activate a sense of gratitude for the things in your life that you love. It can also help you see what you’d like to change. The Wheel of Life is a tool that can help you take stock. To get a FREE Wheel of Life, sign up to my newsletter below. As well as receiving a coaching tool that you can use for the rest of your life, you’ll keep up to date with blog posts and hear about special coaching offers.